Friday, March 6, 2009

It's Friday!

I am so so glad it's Friday! The last three weeks have been crazy hectic! While I am glad that I am venturing back to school for another degree-one that I will enjoy I might add. It is really tough to go back. I have just lost that school momentum. Study groups and group projects are just not as fun as they were the first time! Plus, everybody is like 8 years younger than I am. Don't get me wrong, I am plucking along, and I will make it! This is what I want to do, and I am gonna stick it out! But, boy will I will be glad when December of 2010 gets here!!

On another note, some know that I have been doing weight watchers since January. I have had really good results! I have lost about 15 pounds, which I think is great! Now, I gotta tone it up! I have stepped up the exercise this week! I have gotten on the treadmill 5 days this week and did weights and abs 3 days! That is really good for such a lazy girl as me! You gals that run 5 miles a day! More power to you! Maybe one day I will get there! But for today, I am proud of my treadmill work! Weight Watchers took away 4 of my points this week. Apparently they do that when you lose weight....what a bummer! It has been tough! Who knew 4 little points would make such a big dif! Score 2 for reasons to get on that treadmill though! You get a point for 30 minutes! Yesterday, I ate a banana and orange juice for breakfast. When I looked up my points, imagine my horror when I realized that cost me 4 POINTS! That's right you read it right 4 of my 20 points! I won't be making that mistake again! From now on, no more fruit juice for me! Water it is!

However, orange juice brings me to my last point. Good ole Vitamin C! I think I need it. Since I have been going to the kindergarten everyday, I have gotten sick 3 times this semester. The current ailment is PINK EYE...yea I know gross, right! I think it's from the kids....really I do. I love those little creatures, but I gotten tighten up the old immune system if I am planning on teaching! Anybody got any tips? I am not a big fan of the multi vitamin....not sure why, but I really have an aversion to taking those big monster pills. A girl told me yesterday that Air born is good. Hmmm....maybe I will try it. I know one thing though, I am not wasting a fifth of my daily weight watchers points on some OJ for the vitamin C. I will skip down to GNC and get some tablets!

Peace Out bloggers! I am headed to Pickwick for a fishing and boating weekend with the boyfriend and the puppy! The weather is supposed to be great! I need a little break!

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

An Awesome Discovery!!

So, I rarely blog because honestly I feel like my life is pretty boring right now! Everybody is blogging about their kids and such! No babies for me! Admittedly, I have become rather obbsessed with my dog! Seriously, I have become one of those unmarried pushing 30 woman who has a dog that is treated better than some people's kids! With that said, I recently made a wonderful discovery! Starkville has a dog park! That's right people! A park that caters to puppies! I found this out from my friend Katie who is equally obsessed with her dog! For you Starkville Natives, it is at Moncrief Park where we played Softball as kids. If you don't know where that is, it is on N Jackson St! The dog park is at the back behind the pool! They have two pens, so you can choose which you put your dog in. The dogs just run and play together! There are benches and picnic tables so the owners just sit and study or chat! If you have a dog, I strongly reccommend you check it out! Your dog will have a blast and admit it, you could use some fresh air and sunshine yourself! They even have a water fountain for the pups! Goosey had a swell time, and we will definately make another visit soon! He is looking for a lady friend!

Here is he chasing the ladies!
It looks like recess at an elementary school!

Goosey made a friend!

A water fountain for dogs! What a scream!

Monday, January 12, 2009

Happiness?....Who Knew??

So, after 5 years of complete and total chaos, who knew I could ever be happy? I certainly didn't! I lost both of my parents within 3 years of one another, I have watched my baby brother struggle with a drug problem, and I have had numerous dissapointments and failures. Nope, people, no pity party here...just facts. I honestly thought my life was destined for drama and heartache.

I have now realized that this is not necessarily the case. I am happier now that I have been in quite a while. Things are calm, and I like it.

Everything is exactly how i want it. I miss my mom, but I am living my life, for the first time in a while, for me and only me. I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend. He believes in me and supports me, even though I have been tough this year. I love my dog, he makes me smile every single day. I have a chance to get a degree that will allow me to do something that I will be great at, and love!!

I wont't keep being googly, but I just want the world to know that I am happy. So, if you are feeling down, realize that even when life throws you mud and keeps throwing you mud, there CAN BE happiness at the end!

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Me and Roger have spent a few weekends duck hunting. It is something I had never done, but I had a lot of fun. I haven't gotten to the point of actually hunting yet, but going is really fun. Hopefully Zeus will pick up on his role!

Christmas was nice. We got up and ate fried duck with buscuits and apple butter! YUM! I got a shot fun for Christmas, so we played out in the yard with that! It was a fun quiet time (other than the bang bang, of course!)

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Holiday Season

This picture was Thanksgiving/Christmas last year. My mom looked radiant. You wouldn't even know she was so sick!

It's the season known as "The Holidays." This is a season that tends to make us all nostalgic and whimsical. Families get together, for either a peaceful traditional meal, or a crazy memorable one. Over the years, my family has experienced both. My step dad was a bit of an alcoholic, and the holidays did not tend to bring out the best in him. We had a good many crazy memorable holidays that we would probably just forget.

After he passed away in 2005, we started a new tradition. My sister, brothers and I all spent Thanksgiving with my mom. The 4 of us together on a holiday with my mom had been a rare occurance over the years.

We combined Thanksgiving and Christmas. My mom pulled out the Christmas tree for the kids to decorate. Most of the ornaments were on the bottom half of the tree. The only went as high as little fingers could reach, but we didn't care. Our goal was a peaceful, no rules holiday. Decorating the tree was the fun part for the kids, who cared what it looked like. We ate our traditional Thanksgiving turkey and dressing meal on Thanksgiving day.

After eating and cleaning up, we gathered around the Christmas tree and opened gifts! Of course, my mom got everybody calenders for the next year. We opened them a the same time, and joked about not knowing what was in the gift. She always gave herself one too! The morning after, we woke up and Mama cooked "Monkey Bread." This was a treat that was reserved only for Christmas morning. Biscuit dough cut up and thrown into a round bundt pan, drizzled with cinnamon, sugar and butter, and baked until it was an ooey gooey mess.

Last year, we continued with our tradition, knowing what the future would bring, but not knowing exactly when. My mother, who had been given a 3-6 month life expectancy in October was frail and worn out from Chemotherapy. She was on a constant supply of oxygen, and was having difficulty making it to the kitchen and back. I strategically placed chairs throughout the house for her to sit and catch her breath.

She was not scheduled to have a chemo treatment that week, so we were hopeful that she could withstand the holidays. Unfortunately, the week before Thanksgiving, her blood counts were so bad, she could not get a treatment and her rescheduled treatment was for Wednesday before Thanksgiving. She just gritted her death and said, "Let's do what we gotta do." However, generally the treatments left her so sick and weak, she basically slept for two or three days. We were both afraid that would happen, but didn't mention it.

After she had her treatment Wednesday morning, she insisted that we load up the wheel chair and go to the grocery store. I offered to just go alone and let her rest, but she insisted on going. When everybody got there on Thanksgiving, she looked absolutely radiant. She cooked the entire meal, helped decorate the tree and opened presents. What a gift from God! We all knew that was the last holiday we would have with her, but had low expecations. God gave her the strength and she was able to participate. The day after everybody left, she got very sick from the treatment, and slept for three days. It was amazing how it didn't affect our holiday! The weeks before our celebration, on her good days and bad, she insisted that I take her to Dandy doodles where she painted everyone a special piece of pottery. She also made Christmast ornaments for everybody with whatever nickname she had for us. We also all 4 got matching thumb rings, engraved with "Love and Peace." She told us that she thought those were the 2 most important words, and even if we didn't wear them to just keep them and know she loved us dearly.
December 10, 2007 (My Grandmother's 84 birthday), my grandmother was visiting. My Mom had been very weak. She was having trouble eating and mostly slept. She and my grandmother were spending some much needed alone time, while I ran to Walmart. My grandmother called in a panic, saying something had happened to my mom. They were talking, and my mom just passed out and was completely not responsive. I called 911, and drove as fast as I could home to meet the ambulance.
I will spare all the details, but my mom spent the next 13 days in the Tupelo hospital. She spent most of that time, under heavy sedation. She came out of it for 1 day. That day, she woke up thinking and feeling like the whole cancer experience had been a dream. She laughed and talked with everybody. She told us to go get her a burger from Wendy's. She was able to eat it. It was another one of those blessings that didn't make sense, but we were grateful for it. When we told her she had ridden in the ambulance twice, she said "Damn, I hate I don't remember that. I have always wanted to ride in an ambulance." My mom had such an amazing sense of humor!
I took her home on December 23 to spend Christmas. She spent the following week in and out of conciousness. My Uncle came from Kansas for a visit. They had a nice time. She was so worried about giving people from the church Christmas gifts because they had done so much for her. She wanted to make a pineapple and cheese casserole for a number of people. I went to the store and got all the stuff. When I got home, she was too weak to get out of bed. I made 9 casseroles, and called the people asking them to come by. My mom got to give them their casseroles, which was really important to her. In her final hours, she was so concerned with blessing other people. She was just an extraordinary human being! I try to be that good, but it's virtually impossible.
Christmas was spent sitting with her while she slept. I watched dvds, and did sudoku puzzles. We enjoyed the visits from the home health nurses. On December 30, my mom told me that it wouldn't be much longer and that when the time came not to try to keep her here by hoping or praying. (This conversation was discussed in a prior blog). Our home health nurse that day was amazing. She had actually worked in hospice for several years, and was able to guide us through the night. She was only going to stay for a few hours, but ended up staying the entire night with me. It was a major comfort.
On December 31, 2007, my mom passed away peacefully! Me and my sister were with her.
I have missed her so much this past year, but am so very grateful for the rich blessings, she brought with her life.
This holiday season has been different. My sisters, brother and I all got together to celebrate. We combined Thanksgiving and Christmas, on a weekend that worked for all of us. I spent Thanksgiving with Roger's family, and will spend a quiet Christmas with Roger and our dog. This is a year of change. Hopefully, it is a year that will set up some traditions for years to come.
I have so many things to be grateful for. I will have to write a whole other blog for my gratitude list. But, the biggest thing I am grateful for is my friends and family. This year has proven to be difficult for me. Losing my mom was the biggest bump, breaking my arm was bad too. My friends never gave up on me, even while I struggled. They sat through my surgery, drove me around, cleaned my house, scooped cat litter and just were generally supportive! And, Roger, well he gave me a chance even when I was not easy. Somehow, I found the love of my life when I was in my hardest, darkest hour. I am grateful for his love and support! My mom told me that if she could hand pick sombody for me, it would be him. She called him "The finest man she knew." I would have to agree with that.
So, as you get together with your families this year, enjoy it! It doesn't matter if you have a crazy, dramatic holiday full of drama and memories, or just a quiet one at home. I know it sounds cheesy, but be grateful for whatever holiday you have with your family!

I snagged this nifty little survey off of Emily Hanson's blog. It is something to pass the time for slackers like me with nothing better to do than ramble about yourself! I have not too well on keeping up with this blogging thing. I will update with things other than just random facts, soon!

  • Whats your middle name?

  • How big is your bed?


  • What are you listening to right now?

The dog snoring

  • What are the last 4 digits in your cell phone number?

5693, which spells JOYE

  • What was the last thing you ate?

venison burgers last night

  • Last person you hugged?

Rog, when he left for work

  • How is the weather right now?

yucky: cold and rainy

  • Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?


  • What is the first thing you notice in the opposite sex?


  • Favorite type of food?


  • Do you want children?


  • Do you drink?


  • Hair color?


  • Eye color?

Bluish Green

  • Do you wear contacts/glasses?


  • Favorite holiday?

Christmas usually, but this year Christmas is hard!

  • Favorite Season?


  • Are you in a relationship?

I am in the BEST relationship!

  • Last Movie you watched?

Mission Impossible 3 was on tv last night.

  • What books are you reading?

Actually, I am not reading a book right now. I read "Marley and Me" last week. It was sweet.

  • Piercings?

Just my ears.

  • Favorite Movie?

I really don't think I can narrow it down to just one favorite movie. I like ALL movies!

  • Favorite college football team?

MSU, even if we suck right now.

  • What were you doing before filling this out?


  • Any pets?

Zeus, Chonga, Oliver and New Kitty!

  • Dogs or cats?

1 dog, 3 cats! I want another dog, but Roger won't let me get one. Aparently Zeus is full of himself and enough!

  • Favorite Flower?

Gerbera daisy

  • Who would you like to see right now?

My mom, no question.

  • Have you ever fired a gun?

Yea, and Roger is SUPPOSED to teach me to shoot good, when duck season is over.

  • Do you like to travel by plane?

It doesn't bother me. I wouldn't say I just love it.

  • Right-handed or Left-handed?


  • If you could go to any place rightnow where would you go?

To the mountains

  • Are you missing someone?

My mom.

  • Do you have a tattoo?

No, I have always felt too indecisive for that. I know I would immedietly regret it.

  • Do you still watch cartoons on Saturday mornings?

No, I didn't even watch cartoons as a kid. I have, however, watched more than my fair share this past semester. I know all the Wonder Pets, Backyardigans, and Dora songs that any adult needs to know.

  • Are you hiding something from someone?


  • What is the wallpaper on your cellphone?

A picture of the dog, of course.

  • Did you get enough sleep last night?

No, I was not feeling so swell!

  • First thing you thought about this morning?

Shopping with Mary Esther

  • What do you have on your bedside?

contact solution and some candle things

  • Grilled or fried

grilled fish, fried chicken....if that is what that strange question was asking.

  • What makes you unique?

I am just me....Joy E.

  • Are you afraid of the dark?

I am not really afraid of much of anything.

  • Favorite hangout?

With my peoples!

  • Favorite song?

Again, can we narrow things down to one song? I don't even have a favorite type of music. I love it all.

  • Are you a giver or a taker?


  • What are your nicknames?

My mom called me "Priss" which was becuase I have never been prissy and sweet. Also, Joyous, Joyful...all those kind of Joy names

  • What is your dad's middle name?


  • What is your mom's middle name?


Friday, August 15, 2008

The Beach

Well, we went to the beach last week. Me, Roger and Zeus. It was fantastic! Getting away for a few days and just relaxing was really good for me. Things have been and are so hectic the past year, I really enjoyed just sitting without a to do list. Zeus had an absolute blast chasing the waves and sand fleas. During the day he had to stay on his leash because he got so excited around all the new people. Believe it or not, not everybody loves my dog as much as me...ha ha. We took him out at night and let him run crazy and it was hilarious!! Roger cooked lots of good food of course! One of the night a couple friend of his and their son came and ate with us, which was nice. We went out on their boat the next day for a few hours and than had lunch before they left. I really enjoyed meeting them.

I have been keeping mackenzie this week while Mary Esther has been in DC. It has been quite an adventure having a two year old added to my already zoo like house. It's difficult to keep things spotless since the realtors can call at any moment. It has been slightly stressful at times, but I have enjoyed it. Ha ha, it does give me even more respect for Mary Esther, and affirms the ideas that I don't think i want 24 hour 7 day kids!!

I am toying with the idea of grad school so that I can be an elementary ed teacher. Which, with a Master's degree, I could teach for a while and later possibly pursue an administrative position such as a principal position. I have not really decided just yet, but have gotten some materials to sift through.